We choose who we want as friends and the person we want to share our life with but when it comes to family – there's no option for do-overs or breakups. Regardless whether you talk every day or once a year, they're still family.
My sister and I are a perfect example of siblings, who, even though we don't share many common interests or views, our relationship remains strong for the simple fact that we are family. Years ago she told me if we weren't sisters, we probably wouldn't be friends, and at the time it really hurt my feelings. Over the years, I've come to realize what she said is true and that's the beauty of being family.
As sisters, we don't have to agree, look for approval or try to impress – as the bond is stronger than friendship, it's forever.
Even though she lives in town, her standard rule of thumb is to never read this column. She says I make her sound like the "mean" big sister, and she doesn't want any part of it. The fact of the matter is – she is the older sister and I make sure to remind her of our age difference every chance I get – as only little sisters can do. I've never intentionally tried to make her out as a "mean" sister, only that we are different and besides, if I can't make fun of her, who can?
It's hard to imagine what life would be like without siblings, as they are the only people in the world who know the good and bad things about you, yet will continue to be your confidante, support system and cheerleader. How many people do you know who will continue to talk to you once they find out you have skeletons lurking in your closet?
That isn't a concern with siblings, since they usually share those same secrets.
We don't always see eye-to-eye and more times than not our opinions on most any topic are as different as night and day. Even so, there have only been a handful of times throughout our lives in which we have been so upset with each other we haven't talked for longer than a week.
This weekend we're celebrating her birthday – and I feel it's time to come clean about what really happened to her favorite doll – Chatty Cathy.
The bottom line is this. We are sisters and that bond is stronger than any friendship. A bond that can withstand any disagreement, criticism or, a 45-year-old "accidential" drop of a doll down a clothes chute.
I'll know if she really does read this column when she doesn't speak to me at her birthday breakfast.
Page 2 of 2 - All I can say is thank goodness sisters are the kind of friend you can't ever get rid of since, whatever you may so or do, they'll still be there.
Sandy Turner lives in the Kansas City area and writes this column for GateHouse Media.