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The Leavenworth Times - Leavenworth, KS
  • Quick Five Questions: Veteran-turned-author's books outline personal struggles, healing processes

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      "Let 'Finding Myself' help you put things into perspective, show you how to rebuild your life, and lead you into a better relationship when the seasons of your life begin to change."
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      Quotable:

      "Let 'Finding Myself' help you put things into perspective, show you how to rebuild your life, and lead you into a better relationship when the seasons of your life begin to change."

      — From the summary of "Finding Myself" on www.amazon.com

  • Daniel Wilt, Jr., is a career officer in the U.S. Army Military Police Corps, the owner of a private consultation business, and operator of Monday Morning Ministries.
    He's also building a resume as an author.
    His book, "Finding Myself: A Soldier's Story of Betrayal, Embattlement and Divorce," is a guide for readers to "overcome the betrayal of someone you trust, how to endure battling the giants you face, and how to recover from failed relationships and learn to love again," according to a summary on www.amazon.com.
    "Let 'Finding Myself' help you put things into perspective, show you how to rebuild your life, and lead you into a better relationship when the seasons of your life begin to change," the website states.
    The author tells us more in this Q5.
    1. Daniel, what was the inspiration behind your book, "Finding Myself: A Soldier's Recovery From Betrayal, Embattlement, & Divorce," and why was it important for you to put this story into written words?
    "After returning from my seventh overseas tour, I began to journal as a means of trying to identify and let go of some of the things that troubled me. Those journals evolved into this book. The basis of 'Finding Myself' comes most notably of my experiences as a professional soldier and of the difficulties that my career placed upon my personal life. I believe the struggles that I experienced in marriage, while going through a painful divorce, and the lessons that I learned in various social, geo-political, and military settings provide a unique view and understanding of what it means to persevere.
    "It was important to me to work with the right publisher who shared my desire to get this story into the hands of others who are experiencing now, or who have experienced, things similar to what I have gone through. I believe that there is a reason for why I went through the things that I have experienced, and I believe that by sharing my story with others, that they will realize that they are not alone in their struggles."
    2. It has been well publicized that many soldiers return home from deployment suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, but what other struggles and difficulties plague members of the military that are not so well reported?
    "I struggled for years with undiagnosed depression, anxiety, and PTSD as a result of an unfaithful wife, leaders who chased medals at the expense of the safety of their subordinates, and too many traumatic experiences. These are issues that are common to many veterans and their families. Though I am remarried now and have a beautiful new family, I had to identify the unseen baggage of my past, identify the situations that still trigger negative reactions from me, and learn to develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage my daily life.
    Page 2 of 2 - "Some of the difficulties that follow many of us are that we don’t think like we used to; we don’t process situations as others would expect us to be able to; and each of our current and future interpersonal relationships are affected by things the other person may never be cognizant of."
    3. How does "Finding Myself" help readers get through the stages of grief they face and show them how to overcome the obstacles they come up against when reaching out for help?
    "Many situations can cause a person to experience some level of grief. I’ve come across many people who either don’t ask for help, or if they do ask for help, they have a false sense of what to expect from the help they are seeking.
    "In Finding Myself, I try to restore the reader’s sense of hope where it may be lost. I also try to help aggrieved readers who desire to restore for themselves an identity that was lost; possessions that were wrongfully taken; or rights that have been trampled, by tempering expectations with advice and lessons learned from my own experiences. Otherwise, we risk being subjected to even more overwhelming feelings of grief if the process doesn’t turn out quite as we might have expected."
    4. How can family, friends and co-workers best help someone who is struggling to put their difficulties in perspective and rebuild their life?
    "I believe that no individual person’s life is completely above reproach; we all have character flaws and have endured our own trials and hardships. I believe that there are three reasons why we each experience troubles in life. One is that we learn to rely on God and not on ourselves. Two is that we can help others who are experiencing something that we have already endured. The third reason is that what we endure today will help shape us to handle even tougher difficulties later in life."
    5. What do you hope the book can accomplish in helping soldiers, and people in general, who are dealing with despair find the light at the end of the tunnel? Do you plan to write other books?
    "I hope to help save someone’s life; to help a hurting marriage; and to help a person who needs to restore a sense of peace and tranquility. I believe 'Finding Myself' can be an effective tool in a person’s toolkit that will aid the reader in achieving a sense of spiritual peace.
    "My second book, 'Finding Covenant Ground,' was released on July 1, 2014. Wherein "Finding Myself" I hope to help the hurting person, in "Finding Covenant Ground," I hope to help mend those family, marital, and community relationships that have been hurt or which may be suffering from some thing."

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